Patients and teenagers often disagree about the amount of freedom(自由)and responsibility that the young people are 1 have. The teenagers often wants to be 2 to choose his own friends, select his own 3 in school, plan for his own vocational(职业的) 4 , 5 and spend his own money, and generally run his own life in a more independent fashion than many parents are able to 6 . If all the members in any given famliy take interest in the situation, sharing in working it out, disagreements are 7 and problems are solved. Hence parents and teenagers learn how to get through (使了解) 8 and 9 skills in understanding and 10 understood, even the most difficult problems are relieved (解决).