Winners are not afraid to do their own thinking and to use their own knowledge . They can separate facts from opinions and don’t pretend to have all the answers . They listen to others, evaluate what they say, but come to their own conclusions. Although winners can admire and respect other people, they are not totally defined, demolished, bound, or awed by them . Winners do not play “ helpless ” , nor do they play the blaming game . Instead, they assume responsibility for their own lives.